You may have a lot of feelings about someone and still be unsure what to do next. This exercise gives you somewhere to separate what happened from what you think it might mean... then choose one small step that is yours to take.

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Your answers stay in this page. There is no login, no AI reading your notes and no automatic saving or sending. Copying or downloading is entirely your choice. Reloading or leaving clears the exercise.

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This is a reflection exercise, not a relationship test or a recommendation to stay or leave. If you are afraid of someone's reaction, you do not need to contact them or complete this. Consider speaking privately with someone you trust or a local domestic abuse support service. If you are in immediate danger, contact local emergency services when safe.

See a worked example before you begin

Imagine someone cancelled a plan and has not suggested another day. You still enjoy talking with them, but the uncertainty is beginning to hurt.

What happened
They cancelled Saturday's plan on Friday. We have exchanged messages since, but have not made another plan.
What I think it might mean
I wonder if they have lost interest. I also do not know what else is happening in their life.
What I want to know
Do they want to arrange another date?
What matters to me
I want to spend time together in person, with plans we both help make.
One step I could take
If I want to ask, I could say “I'd still like to see you. Would you like to choose another day?” Then I can consider their answer and whether a plan follows.

You do not need to explain their motives before deciding what you want. Your own example may lead to a different next step.

Make room for your own answer

Every field is optional. A sentence or two is enough. Leave names and identifying details out if you prefer. Each field allows up to 2,000 characters.

Write what was said or done, and when. Try to keep guesses about why it happened for the next box.

You could begin with “I wonder if...” What are you hoping for or worried about? Is there anything you simply do not know yet?

Choose a question that would help you understand the situation. You can leave it unanswered. Writing it here does not mean you have to ask them.

Think about the relationship you want and how this situation feels to live with. What would you like to be different?

Perhaps you want time to think, support from a friend, a conversation if it feels safe, or some distance. Choose something within your control. You can decide when you want to reconsider.